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Gentle Love

I don’t believe in “tough love.”

We are all different. Every person is unique, and if they so choose to have children, they will become unique parents and have unique children. So of course we can’t all parent the same way. Does that mean there is no ideal way of parenting?

When I think of a “blanket” approach to parenting…something that would probably work for every family, I think of parenting the way Jesus would. And when I think of how Jesus would parent, I can only imagine him being loving, respectful, and gentle. He wouldn’t hit, reprimand, or punish. He wouldn’t leave a child alone in tears. In every image I have in my head regarding Jesus and children, I see him full of love and gentleness.

You don’t have to be Christian to take this pledge. You only have to promise to yourself to try your best to be gentle, respectful, and loving to children, most especially your own. And you have to promise that you will be gentle with yourself, and forgive yourself when you aren’t perfect.

To take the pledge, add the button below to your blog and leave a comment on this page. Thank you for being gentle with children.

<a href=”“><img src=”” alt=”Parent With Gentle Love — My World Edenwild” title=”Parent With Gentle Love — My World Edenwild”></a>

To add button to your blog, copy and paste the code above into a text or html widget.

22 Comments leave one →
  1. April 6, 2010 12:09 am

    I love the idea of this button. I definitely commit, and I need the reminder. I love the idea of thinking to how Jesus did and would children. I’ve put your wonderful button here until I create a prettier page to showcase all my lovely affiliations:

    Thank you for creating this!

    • April 6, 2010 2:53 pm

      Oh, thank you Lauren. And I changed the code to the one you gave me.

  2. Paige permalink
    April 20, 2010 8:53 am

    This is really wonderful. I’m hosting a Carnival of Gentle Discipline April 26-30, 2010 and I’d like to refer to this pledge. If you’d like I have a similar theme and button that says I’m a Gentle Parent.

    • April 20, 2010 2:28 pm

      That’s great. I’m not seeing a link to your blog, though…

  3. May 2, 2010 5:39 am

    I love this! I’ve added your button on my page as well :)

  4. Cassie permalink
    May 14, 2010 10:00 am

    ha, i just read this and i added it to my blog already because I agreed that you should parent with gentle love. But now that i read it, i agree even more :D

  5. May 29, 2010 7:49 pm

    I am with you in this pledge.. though I must admit Im new to all of this! Its so different than the way I have parented in the past but I do agree with you! Would you mind suggesting a few good resources for someone wanting more information regarding this gentle love?

  6. July 6, 2010 6:03 am

    I stumbled across your blog and just wanted to say this is so beautiful!!! Thank you for being another loving person in this world. Much love and light to you and your family. I’m about to add the button!
    Tamsin & Maia

  7. July 18, 2010 3:21 pm

    I just found your blog via MMB. I’m on a quest to find other crunchy LDS moms and found your gentle love button.

    I SO need to connect with other LDS parents who parent gently since I don’t have many RL examples.

    Thanks for being gentle and sharing the message!

  8. October 22, 2010 12:34 pm

    Hi! I have tried to put the “Parent with Gentle Love Button” on my site. I copy the code and it doesn’t work. I end up with a bit of text and no button. I am totally new to site building (currently in the process of getting my first site up and running) so don’t know if I’m doing something wrong?

    It’s a GREAT button! Your help would be greatly appreciated!

    • October 24, 2010 5:02 pm

      The problem is probably the smart quotes ” vs. straight quotes ” — just try replacing all the quote marks in a simple text program or in Blogger.

      Here’s how I have it on my site:

      Hopefully you can just copy and paste.

      • October 24, 2010 5:03 pm

        Oops! The code didn’t show up, and I see WP is auto-changing all my quotes to smart quotes. Oh, well. You can just replace the quotes, though, for Blogger blogs.

  9. October 22, 2010 9:16 pm

    Hi! Thanks for trying to add my button! Hm, I don’t know why it isn’t working. My friend helped me with the code, and she’s good at this stuff, so I thought it was fine. I do see that some of the quote marks look backwards. I did just try it on a blogger blog of my mine, and it worked except there was something extra with it. I’ll try to figure it out.

  10. February 15, 2011 10:32 pm

    Just found your site. LOVE it. Took the pledge and added your button to my inspiration page!

    Thanks for inspiring me! ♥


    • February 15, 2011 10:41 pm

      Thank you! I’ll stop by when I get the chance.

  11. March 30, 2011 11:38 am

    Thank you so much for your blog and supportive advice for those of us trying to peacefully and gently parent in a rough world! I’ve added your button to my simple little blog.

  12. September 8, 2011 1:13 pm

    Hi Lisa! I love your blog and I really love your idea behind the beautiful button. I remind myself everyday to be gentle and always loving to my kids everyday. thank you for such a good reminder. I’ve added this button to my blog.
    Be blessed.

  13. May 21, 2012 4:42 am

    I love this and am placing your button on my blog, thank you! I try to parent gently in all of my actions but sometimes I do need the reminder.

    • May 22, 2012 9:45 pm

      Thanks, Angela! Yes, sometimes I need to remind myself, too, especially as my son has gotten older.


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