What I Wish I’d Known Then: A Poem
Welcome to the October Carnival of Breastfeeding! At the end of this post you will find the links to other participants in this carnival.
What I Wish I’d Known Then
I wish I’d known that breastfeeding was going to be hard, despite what the manuals implied
That it was going to hurt for about four months
That my baby was going to be unable to get a proper latch for several weeks
That I was going to get thrush
That I’d have to buy a double electric pump and learn to hate it
That my baby wouldn’t nurse the way it said in the manuals
That I wasn’t going to be able to comfort nurse my baby for about eight months.
I wish I’d known that I’d need a supply of grapefruit seed extract
That I shouldn’t wear a bra all day
That milk on the sheets is better than having an infection
That I’d have enough milk to feed twins
That nursing lying down is the easiest way for a new mother to get some rest
That bed-sharing can also help a new mother to get some rest
That The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding was the manual I should have read
That focused practice and the perspective of another can really help.
I wish I’d known when and where the local La Leche League held their meetings
That babies vary so much in the way they nurse
That there was no one “right” way
That I would find support at a babywearing group
That I would find comfort at a diaper free baby group
That I would find friends at a breastfeeding group.
I wish I’d know then that not everyone judges
That I shouldn’t worry about offending people by feeding my child
That there was no reason to judge a bottle-feeding mother
That I needed to be brave, if only for myself
That my mother would disapprove of public nursing
That men would get embarrassed by something that should be normal
But that not everyone has these issues so I shouldn’t dwell on it.
I wish I’d known then that I’d be so insanely passionate about breastfeeding
That I would care so much about babies that weren’t even mine
That I would become judgmental
That I would offend someone
That my feelings would get hurt
That I would hide in shame to avoid confrontation
That I would be humbled and emerge a stronger woman
That breastfeeding is a journey, not unlike motherhood itself.
I didn’t know then that breastfeeding would complete me as a woman
That it would challenge me in ways I never dreamt of
That I would be so fulfilled by something so simple
That I could be so in awe of my own body
That I could have such an intimate relationship with a child
That it would change my relationship with my husband
That it would give me so much peace of mind
That breastfeeding is even better than I had ever imagined.
And that it does get better.
Other participants in this month’s Carnival of Breastfeeding:
What I wish I’d known then…that it wasn’t up to me alone by Happy Bambino’s Blog
4 things I wish I’d known about breastfeeding by Three Girl Pile-up
What I wish I would have know about breastfeeding by Birth Activist
You don’t have to grin and bear it by Melodie at Breastfeeding Moms Unite!
If I’d Known Then… by Whozat
What I wish I’d known then–My list for next time by Momma’s Angel
I wish I would’ve known! by strwberryjoy
What I Wish I’d Known Back Then About Breastfeeding by Christina at Massachusetts Friends of Midwives
AP Principle #2: What I wish I’d known when I started breastfeeding by Hobo Mama
When breastfeeding begins badly, and what I should have done about it by The Milk Mama
Breastfeeding: Wish I’d Heard More Good Things! by Fancy Pancakes
15 Breastfeeding Facts I Wish I’d Known as a First Time Breastfeeding Mum by Breastfeeding Mums
When Breastfeeding Feels Wrong by Fighting Off Frumpy
Nursing Wisdom by Cave Mother
Trust Yourself and Your Body by Bliss Tree
Breastfeeding: What I Wish I’d Known Then by MomUnplugged
Breastfeeding is life changing by Blacktating